Letters to the Editor
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Oh - My - God!
Let's see. You have a husband, a job, and two kids. I imagine you are getting up around 6:00 or 6:30 in the morning, if not earlier. You already have a very busy life. Even if you went to bed at midnight, you'd still only be getting about 6 hours of sleep at night.
So what you should do, is definitely add some more things to your already overworked day so that you can feel guilty about not doing them. Join a gym, take up yoga or meditation, any other thing (stamp collecting?) so that every time you don't do that thing, you can feel guilty about that, too.
Is beloved hubby doing at least some of the shopping, laundry, cooking? Are you having at least occasional fun sex?
Trust me, I used to be a night owl, and staying up to 2 or 3 in the morning, even stone-cold sober, you're going to be cranky the next day. Our society is definitely NOT set up to accomodate the night owls, at least not those with day jobs. So don't listen to these people. I mean, do you know how much you are hurting the productivity of the economy by staying up late having 4 glasses of wine? You are cheating your employer, you know. You owe him/her/it far more devotion and energy than you owe to yourself or your family.
You need some down time, some alone time, some time to yourself. You may be an introvert. God forbid, you selfish bitch! Don't you realize that you are DENYING DENYING DENYING!(http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch)
And gaining 15 pounds after having 2 children! Why, that's practically...NORMAL! Shame on you for being normal. You need to maximize your potential. Every second you don't spend becoming a more perfect, more spiritual, healthier, thinner, at peace, perfect you is a waste, I tell you. You only have so much time here on earth. Why would you spend any of it relaxing with a glass of wine?
I don't know if you are on the way to being an alcoholic. You may, as others have suggested, be drinking down that wine out of pint mayonnaise jars. In which case, you probably need to do something about it.
But if it is really not a problem, don't listen to these New Puritans who seek to medicalize and psychologize every single aspect of normal human behavior. They are the ones who need help, because they have no joy. Just a filthy dirty guilt, and fear. Fear, now that God in Heaven is dead and the afterlife all blown away, they must worship every moment at the temple of the body here on earth, so that they may live forever...or at least to eighty-five, in good health. (Hope they have a good retirement plan!)
And one more thing. My mother never, NEVER got cranky with us children. Not once. She was a freaking saint, every single day of her life, may she rest in peace.