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I fought like hell for years and went into bankruptcy seeking custody of my daughter. The (ex) wife slept with her attorney (such a cliche, I know) and then blackmailed him into acting as her agent. (I use that term precisely because he is not an attorney in the usual sense--he is an agent/fixer/consigliere.) As you can probably infer, there was much pulling of hair and gnashing of teeth, in a legal battle that is still not resolved today (8+ years of litigation). I have de facto physical custody of a bit over 50%. My daughter doesn't know what I (we) went through as she was too young and I didn't share the details of the disgusting behavior of the adults (ex wife, her lawyer, the judge and the GAL). Perhaps when she's an adult, I will tell her but I won't know until we get there. Divorcing a mentally ill person is not for the faint hearted.