Letters to the Editor
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Subconscious slips...
I can understand that some folks question whether or not anyone that writes a diary/journal without the proper security measures is just begging for someone else to read it, subconsciously...but it sounds like the LW really didn't want her husband to read that stuff...as I always say, don't commit to paper what you don't want read someday. Granted, it's electronic, but you get my drift...and the LW should have been a little more aware of this before she handed over her personal laptop. Even a brief mention about the Terms of Use for the laptop might have prevented this..."Here, you can borrow this, but don't go running all over the harddrive because I use that for work and stuff."
Likewise, I'm VERY curious to know just how invisible this personal diary is...if it was well hidden on the laptop, and it was marked as "personal" (or "KEEP OUT"), then your snooping husband has some trust issues he needs to work out, because he should have known better. It's like reading a spoiler on www.darkhorizons.com or imdb.com...the minute you start reading about the synopsis of a movie you haven't seen yet should be a clue to close that screen and move on to something else...I did that in regards to Star Wars: Phantom Menance, and unfortunately, it took away what little surprise there was left in the final half hour. I still regret that...
And LW, you don't have to apologize for who you once were, or what you used to think, prior to marriage. It doesn't matter what the content was in your diary, the act of your husband reading it was a serious line to cross, in my opinion. Frankly, whatever trust issues he has now were brought on by himself, and he has no one else to blame!