Letters to the Editor
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It's OK to not like Porn
Watching porn is watching another person engage in sexual activity for your sexual gratification. In most porn, an actual, real live human being is engaging in real sexual activity for your gratification.
I don't see any reason why this shouldn't make a partner uncomfortable.
Most of us would be uncomfortable if our partners drilled holes in their neighbors walls to watch them have sex. We would probably also be uncomfortable if the neighbors invited our partners over to watch them have sex. Or if our partners decided to buy some pictures of our neighbors engaging in sexual activities. Why is it OK to not like our partners to get off on watching the neighbors but we can't object to our partners looking at porn? What's the difference?
Is it that we've convinced ourselves that the actors in porn aren't real people, therefore what our partners are doing aren't real? Oh, but they are real people. They are as real as your neighbors. They are real, live people doing sex acts for money and our partners are their clients.
That sure as hell makes me uncomfortable and I feel no shame in that whatsoever.