Letters to the Editor
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#2 with one possible compromise
Go for the least acrimony possible, but definitely #2. You may genuinely love each other, but you sound hopelessly mismatched.
However, the one conceivable compromise would be to move to a place like Athens, Georgia, Charlottesville, Virginia, or Asheville, North Carolina -- university towns that offer some of the cultural benefits of the city, including hip, intelligent denizens, while offering the laid-back, low-pressure, rustic aspects of rural living (as well as the low cost of living, albeit with the attendant poor job market notwithstanding academic posts, which are hotly competitive). Plus you can drive to Balto/D.C. or Atlanta (in these examples).
This compromise, however, won't change the fact that you seem mismatched -- this guy simply has no intellectual curiosity and you do.