Letters to the Editor
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What about the Grandmother's Lawyer?
Wouldn't the person who created this will with the Grandmother be able to clear it up, and wouldn't they have covered possible break-up.
My financial planner went over this with us. We're not married, we can't get married, (Gay Couple) so what happens? I would have to think that the lawyer had asked her if she really wanted to do it that way, I mean unless she did some my will software package or something.
Over the 6 years we've been together I sometimes think I would like to give the money that I have, which is a lot more than 10,000 to my partner's nephew. The nephew is of no relation to me, my family might be pissed, but because I've come to know and or like him and his personality I might do it.
Just because you're related to someone doesn't mean they deserve this or that or its somekind of legacy. Maybe you ended up with a cool family and everyone is like the Cleaver's good for you. But if you ended up with a more complex family well then the rules change.
You shouldn't give the money back because you might be insulting the Grandmother, who for whatever reasons liked you. Sometimes people don't really like their own family as much as the people who come from outside it.
The right answer is to comply with exactly what the will spells out. Nothing more, nothing less.
That's why Cary is right. Coming from a relationship that probably in my lifetime will never become a civil union, I would never tell my ex partner that he shouldn't be entitled to whatever my grandmother may give him. See it works both ways.
Oh and LW sorry for assuming that your are a woman. You may be a gay man like me.
Comply with the will and nobody really gets hurt. If the fangs do come out, well that my again tell you exactly why she put the money in your name.
Cary didn't really tell you what to do for a reason after complying with the will because there is no right answer here. If you need the money use it. Respect for the will should come from both sides. And if both sides are acting appropriately the ex would never ask for the money back.
This relationship was clearly not some basic dating scheme. It was a full relationship. She doesn't owe the family anything at all. And if the mother and father of the ex liked her at all, they would probably agree that she should keep the money.
This is like Ken Lay and his prosecution in a way. His crimes were vacated because he died. The Prosecuters want him to remain guilty, but no matter what you think, he died and didn't have the ability to finish his appeals process. No matter what you think, it stands on record that he is not guilty in accordance with the law.
No matter what anyone else thinks, you are not guilty of being a money grubber, or immoral, or anything else by complying with the will. It just is what it is. Familys aren't perfect and not everyone thinks their family deserves a legacy or whatever bullshit.