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Good Lord, people. Stop referring back to the straw man of racism and get to the heart of the issue. You're both over 40 and still single! Some other readers have pointed this out as well. I am an Asian man myself and know several others. Yes, family obligations may be relatively stronger for children of recent immigrants (independent of race or culture, mind you), but neither the white woman or Asian man has any sort of proven maturity in their relationships even into their 40s. This isn't an indication of an issue with the parents, but with themselves.
They both need to grow up.
And to Cary and the rest of you readers on the interwebs, do not use this dysfuntional couple as a model for inter-racial relationships. Dysfunction will magnify differences that most people, most FUNCTIONING people should and do overcome.
Immigrants will always be protective of their children; they've worked hard to come to this country and provide a life for their families. This includes the Irish and Italians of the 19th century all the way up to the more recent Asian immigrants. These feelings aren't racial or cultural; instead they are borne from the traits that made them successful immigrants in the first place. Even so, most functional first generation Americans (including humbly, me) are able to separate family obligations with sheer insanity. So once again, don't hold this idiotic couple up as the end all, be all. They're simply an outlier on the bellcurve of humanity.
