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Wednesday, February 7, 2007 12:00 AM

From dating an Asian man to living with him: Parents still don't know

I'm a white woman in my 40s. His parents don't approve of me. Am I just insecure?
By Cary Tennis

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  • Wednesday, February 7, 2007 01:21 PM

    A well running romantic involvement...

    will often require that the people directly involved mute their respective best case desires (their druthers). This is done, mechanistically speaking, in the interest of furthering the romantic involvement. There are reasonable limits to such muting of druthers. Outside of such reasonable limits is the denial of simple physical truths. Wearing a bikini to a funeral is a reasonably muted desire; existence is not. My behaviour we can discuss; my existence - not negotiable.

    —remember, you're not going to live forever

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