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Dear LW, I'm a woman in my early 40s who was involved with a Vietnamese man in his early fifties, similar situation in many respects.
What happened to me was, he did love me, I guess, but he was using me for sex. Plain and simple, he was using me and wasting what was left of my youth. If he cannot or will not marry you, then he might be doing the same thing. One day he will get tired of the conflict between you and his parents, he'll have had enough of you physically, then that will be it.
In this situation Cary's right, you need to look at you and what you want, and protect that, because one day, maybe soon, this will be over. I wish I had known this before I wasted two years on that creep I was with.
Best of luck,
Been there, done that
