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Before we start assuming this is a trait of all Asian men, let me just say that spineless, no balls men come in all colors. Okay? Okay.
Honestly, I can't see how the rest of the relationship can be any good with this huge elephant hanging out with you all the time.
For the record, I'm Chinese-American, suffered under similar parental pressure and made a stand for myself in my mid-20s by moving away to another city and *gasp* living with my boyfriend. My parents had a choice of either disowning me or accepting my individuality. Today, my mom and I talk once a week (dad passed away last year and we were on good terms), and she's told me she regrets being so harsh with me back then. I've let go of the anger.
What I'm trying to say is, cultural gaps can be bridged. His parents are very, very aware of their power and use it to manipulate him. He needs to be the one to turn the tables and confront them. If he can't do it for you, he doesn't love you. Sorry. Leave and find someone who will move mountains for you. Everyone deserves someone who loves them utterly and completely.
