Letters to the Editor

From dating an Asian man to living with him: Parents still don't know I'm a white woman in my 40s. His parents don't approve of me. Am I just insecure? By Cary Tennis [2007-02-07]

• Hate to paint w/ broad brush, but I think this is typical Asian Male hangup...

  Hi-

  I'm also white woman who has dated a few Asians before. There are so few WF/AM relationships to look towards as examples. Thus it is difficult to extrapolate large trends or patterns in such pairings.

  Nonetheless, I've been in a relatively similar position before. FWIW, you can find many stories online of heartbroken white women who dated Indian men until the guys went on a trip back to India and returned married to wives the parents had picked out.

  I dare say, a good number of Asian men simply don't have the balls to stand up to their parents. The whole "white women are slutty and unsuitable wife material" seems to be a recurring theme.

  Well, if we are "too slutty" for them, then they are spineless, unchivalrous jerks not worthy of us.

  I agree 100% with Cary's advice. Give him a week to make up his mind. If he can't pick you over mommy + daddy, get rid of him immediately. You deserve a man that loves you enough to stand up for you, not a little boy hiding in the form of a 40 y.o.

  My sympathies are with you, darling.

  -- Anon.
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