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Cary's a big boy. He can defend himself. How very macho of you to think it's your job to come to his defense. By the way, iss this a crush or are you a potential stalker?
Dear LW:
Your Chinese boyfriend is practicing an 'ancient Chinese secret' known 'round the world by males of all nationalities:
Why buy a cow when you get your milk for free?
Now, many women and wannabe sensitive men will write back attacking the rudeness of the phrase...and miss the point in the process. The truth holds. He will never marry you unless all the benefits of marriage are kept on that side of the fence. He can cover the bills, he enjoys your company when he's not around his parents, and the fucking is better than not fucking. Explain again why he'd want to change this arrangement that you have chosen to participate in? You whine, you protest, and yet there you are, sharing his bed.
When your IQ finally reaches room temperature, you'll know what to do.
