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Wednesday, February 7, 2007 12:00 AM

From dating an Asian man to living with him: Parents still don't know

I'm a white woman in my 40s. His parents don't approve of me. Am I just insecure?

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  • Wednesday, February 7, 2007 07:32 AM

    "Wives are replaceable"

    I lived in China for a while, and this letter reminds me of a moral puzzle that a couple of Chinese friends quizzed me with. It goes like this:

    You are in a boat with your Mother and your wife. The boat starts to sink and you can only save one person, your Mother or your wife. Who do you save?

    I quickly answered, "my wife."

    "You can tell you're an American," my Chinese friend said,

    "A Chinese person would save their mother."

    "Really?" I asked.

    "Of course," she said. "You can always get another wife, but you only have one Mother."

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