Weed is for amateurs. You should've sold crack and pimped out your bitch. You went the wimpy route and look what happened! Damn, what a loser...

If you are depressed just shoot some smack. That'll fix you up just fine.

That's what you get, LW, for trusting your personal secrets to someone who rifles through your stuff when you're not around. Are you friggin' kidding me? I'd have tossed her ass out the door for invading my privacy like that, no matter what or how harmless my secret might be. That is just not on.

Next time, find someone more compatible, who won't freak out about your activities, and who will respect your space and privacy.

LW, I think you have a chance with her. The reason I think this is because the few times when you have spoken to your ex, she says she has been thinking of you. If she had said "Don't call me anymore," that would be a very clear closed door. But it seems to me that you have a sliver of a chance to make it work.

So, like Cary suggested, find a new job. And then, woo her. Ask your ex on a date. Tell her that you love her, that it was your love for her that made you realize you didn't want to keep any secrets from her. Tell her you are sorry and that you miss her. Tell her about your new job. Ask her if she would consider starting over, with this new you. Send her flowers. Or little notes. Plan outings that you think she'll like. Take it slow and build up some trust.

I have a few friends who paid for their college expenses by dealing drugs. I certainly don't hold it against them. Many of them are quite successful in their various careers these 30-odd years later. (Hard to believe it's been that long!) They work in medicine, in advertising, in politics, in journalism. They are all great people. If your character is true, that is what counts. Show her that you can struggle along on a career path and apply your business skills to a *straight* job. And above all, be consistent in expressing your feelings to her and share details about your new line of work on a regular basis.

She knew something was wrong before -- that's why she assumed you were having an affair. Now give her the experience of all you all the time. It's true I'm a bit of a romantic. But maybe your ex-girlfriend is, too. Good luck!

LW, I think you have a chance with her. The reason I think this is because the few times when you have spoken to your ex, she says she has been thinking of you. If she had said "Don't call me anymore," that would be a very clear closed door. But it seems to me that you have a sliver of a chance to make it work.

So, like Cary suggested, find a new job. And then, woo her. Ask your ex on a date. Tell her that you love her, that it was your love for her that made you realize you didn't want to keep any secrets from her. Tell her you are sorry and that you miss her. Tell her about your new job. Ask her if she would consider starting over, with this new you. Send her flowers. Or little notes. Plan outings that you think she'll like. Take it slow and build up some trust.

I have a few friends who paid for their college expenses by dealing drugs. I certainly don't hold it against them. Many of them are quite successful in their various careers these 30-odd years later. (Hard to believe it's been that long!) They work in medicine, in advertising, in politics, in journalism. They are all great people. If your character is true, that is what counts. Show her that you can struggle along on a career path and apply your business skills to a *straight* job. And above all, be consistent in expressing your feelings to her and share details about your new line of work on a regular basis.

She knew something was wrong before -- that's why she assumed you were having an affair. Now give her the experience of all you all the time. It's true I'm a bit of a romantic. But maybe your ex-girlfriend is, too. Good luck!

Too bad you're not in jail, where you belong.

Boo fucking hoo about losing your girlfriend. You're a criminal, and should lose the liberties a law-abiding citizen has earned.

I'm a Liberal and I vote Democratic, and I also obey the law. I expect you to do the same, too. Financing your education by illegally selling drugs defeats the very purpose of getting an education.

All you fucking dopeheads who want to bullshit me with your lame excuses: don't bother. You're wrong. Spend your time getting free of the drug culture instead of trying to convince me breaking the law and polluting your body is somehow a better idea.

This relationship doesn't look like all that when viewed from my end. The LW didn't feel he could tell her what he did for a living for TWO YEARS? Y'know, people get married and have a baby within two years. And she snooped through his stuff looking for signs that he'd been unfaithful? That would be a deal-breaker for most people, I think (I hope). So he finally told her and that's supposed to fix anything? Somehow I don't see that reuniting would bring all snooping behavior to an end.

I don't think the LW overreacted to the search of cellphone/house by breaking up with her. I think that was possibly the most sane thing he describes doing. It's not like this relationship is based on those pesky things like mutual respect and trust or anything. And if those things are present after two years, I suspect Santa's not bringing them on his sleigh.

It does seem a good idea to bring the dealing to an end though. I suspect that sooner or later, a source or buyer gets caught and sings like a canary about you.