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I'm not sure if this ommission is lying or not, I guess it is, but really what guy wants to know these things.If the guy is not a virgin, of what relevgance is this information? I know I don't really want to know about it. As long as it's not happennig when you're with me and I don't catch you, whatever. Unless this guy is a virgin and very religious,which there is nothing wrong with, he has no wiggle room to judge her.And obviously they have a sexual relationship so he's not that hung up about sex. This is a control issue obviously from her description of his behavior.technically any kind of sex outside of marriage is sin whether it's "dirty and unacceptable sex" or not. I'm not saying that a woman shouldn't say anything, but I am saying that details such as this should be revealed at your own risk. like I said this is the way it is.This is purely not being able to read this guy from the beginnig, or she would have known he would freak about it. She doesn't know him well enough. And there's nothing wrong with that, but then you can't get mad when this situation happens.
I'm really not trying to jump all over the girlfriend, but when you sleep with someone before really getting to know them you run the risk of them taking that past behavior and running with it. As women we are basically inviting these prying questions.
I also refuse to believe that he " just started" revealing questionable behavior.if he's this much of a jerk about the threesome there has to be something else or some other situation where he has been a jerk even if it was just a little bit. jerks are not just jerks about one issue usually.
Not all guys,but some will use this type of information against women to control them. The BF seems like this type, but as long as she allows it he will continue. this is not a situation that therapy will fix, simply because he's not wrong for the disapproval. He's only wrong for continuing in the relationship and beating her down with it.
Obviously this guy was going to have a problem with it if he just came out and asked about it.
If it has gotten to this point in the " sexual questions" you can probably assume he has already made some judgements or else he wouldn't be so curious about "what " she has done in the past.
