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1. Let's face it: most people of both genders over the age of 22 are not virgins. They have been with other people. In the modern era, people are just going to have to suck it up and deal with the fact that their SO's body parts aren't 100% pure and reserved only for them forever.
2. I bet more men would be weirded out by a chick over 22 who was a virgin than one who'd boinked her way around. Hell, I waited until I was 20 and that still kinda freaked out the guy I ended up losing it to.
3. And speaking of, I've hardly boinked anyone (let's just say, they'd all fit on one hand), and yet I've had a threesome. Does that make me a dirty, dirty whore? Yes, to some people, it does. But if they were going to be utterly traumatized by it, then screw them. It's none of their damned business what I did years before they came along, and if they can't deal with it, leave. Hell, one of my exes did something really disgusting (let's just say the words "BJ," "homeless" and "alley" were involved), and I still stayed with him instead of acting like the LW's boyfriend. Why? Because that was years ago and he wasn't still that teenage idiot, and anything that went on before me wasn't my business unless an STD was involved.
Oh, and while we're citing fiction, how's about the (admittedly trashy, but fun) book Scruples 2? One character (Sasha) unabashedly dated 3 men at a time in Scruples until she fell in love with a much older man and married him. Her husband ends up meeting one of her exes and acts just the way the LW's boyfriend did about it, to the point where she had to give up and divorce him. When she got together with her second husband, she immediately confessed to her OMG SO HORRIBLE SLUT past, and his response was something like, "I hope they all enjoyed it." He didn't give a damn and married her anyway.
THAT is the kind of fellow the LW should be with- someone who's not going to judge her on things that happened long before he came into her life. She can't go back in time and un-fuck people, for chrissake, and if his timid little brain is sooooooo hurt by her having a life before him, then he should go date someone at a fundie church. Sheesh.
