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• Thursday, April 5, 2007 10:02 PM

  I'M LIVING THIS NIGHTMARE RIGHT NOW

  Early in out relationship, my girlfriend told me about numerous threesomes/foursomes she had with a girlfriend from work.

  Unlike some of the previous posts, I was not offended by this. I wanted to get it set up for me too!!

  But then about a month later when I brought it up again, she told me that she would never have a threesome with me EVER. After trying to get her to change her mind, we both got angry.

  So now I face an uncertain future. I have to basically accept the fact that I will never be able to live out my ultimate fantasy with her, but I also have to "accept" the fact that she has given this ultimate fantasy to other guys--several other guys.

  The columnist's response to the original letter is very short-sighted and too theoretical. Unless and until you are actually in this situation, you will never understand how it tears you up.

  I'm worried that the threesome thing between me and my girlfriend will eventually ruin the relationship. It's already starting tension between us. The other day, she was complaining why I don't talk dirty to her and why I don't share my sexual fantasies...

  But how can I share my sexual fantasies with her when she's already done that but won't with me??

  How can we have good sex when I know that she's reached her sexual boundaries with other guys but won't with me??

  Take it from me, you do not want to be in this situation.

  —monzito Read monzito's other letters
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