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• Sunday, December 24, 2006 03:36 PM

  What is wrong with a threesome?

  I think this question is important because we are forced to evaluate our sexual morality when giving a considered response.

  I think it is fine if someone doesn't like threesomes or sees them as compromising, slutty or prioritising the body over the more complex self.

  We all have morality, for example I am repulsed by those men (perhaps there are a few women into this sort of practice to) who turn into fetish the missing limbs of amuputees. Does this make me nuts, uptight or righteous?

  The issue is not what is wrong with the boyfriends opinion. but how he has gone about conducting the relationship following his girlfriend's disclosure.

  This guy is not exhibiting positive traits that would make him long term relationship sea-worthy. The letter writer needs to have a talk with this man. She must cosider before the heavy discussion the contingencies and how she will respond to the boyfriend's possible words. Ultimately, if he won't actively seek help to forgive, move on and re-establish a bond then all is lost. It appears the guy is incapable, for whatever stunted or holier than thou reason, to regain any respect for the letter writer.

  In contrast to Cary's suggestion the girlfriend might have been better off not disclosing this past event, I disagree. As a consoling aside, perhaps it was important the threesome was made known so she could learn unpleasant information about her potential husband. and decide whether this is the type of man she wants to share her life with.

  Jen

  —jenlea
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