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1.) Her for getting involved with him( sexually, so as to cause more hurt than it would be if she wasn't sleeping with him) talking of marriage and everything else before knowing if this kind of thing would offend him.Why is she still screwing him if she knows that he thinks she's a slut. she is just making herself look worse and killing her self-esteem to keep a relationship that is done with. Not a fixable relationship.nor should she want to fix it.
2.) Him for being an imature jerk and holding it over her head for any amount of time, pretending to maybe get over it, when this is obviously a deal breaker for him and he very well knows that.
3.) Her for not realising it's a deal breaker for him and trying to change him and wasting her time when she should get her cats, etc. and move on.
She doesn't say what his reaction was to his friend who had the threesome. That would have told her a lot.
She's hung up about it herself obviously if she's still feeling "slutty", so why wouldn't he have an issue with it.It's not sustainable love if she wasn't aware that her particular past sexual behavior would bother him. You can find out what a guy will tolerate without tellin all about yourself.
I'm sure it appears that i am blaming the victim to some of the ladies, but I'm just saying that she is respongsible for her own happiness and if he isn't making her happy then there is no question that he's not the right one for her.
Get out girlfriend and be more careful what you reveal. I'm sure he's not telling you everything. That's why it bothers him so much.sorry guys but most likely he's no angel.
Next time get a porno out and see how the guy reacts to different scenes, then you know how he feels. If he won't even watch the porno and says "eew" then you know he's not very open about it and you don't have to reveal your past to find out what king of girl he prefers.
This psychobabble bull about telling all your past and being "totally honest" about even trivial matters is total crap and that's why people don't stay together.
