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Your boyfriend is obviously extremely insecure, and you really should not have to put up with abusive, passive aggressive behavior because he cannot accept you were not a Vestal virgin before meeting him. As a guy, I'm having a hard time seeing where he's coming from. Unless you just had a threesome with his brother and his best friend, what's the problem?
I realize people can have irrational insecurities around matters of sexuality, potential fidelity, etc. If a girlfriend told me she used to be a prostitute, that might be a bit tough for me to handle...at first. I think I'd need some assurances she wasn't going to pursue that career while I was with her. But I certainly would not be abusive to her because of it, or get all sullen and nasty because I couldn't come to grips with it. You deserve to be treated with respect for who you are, warts and all. There is nothing abnormal or bad about having a threesome, and you don't have to apologize for it. Enough time has passed for your boyfriend to get over it and now he needs to shape up or ship out. If he can't, you may need to accept that this kind of behavior is going to be an issue throughout your relationship and ask yourself whether he's worth it. Good luck.
