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it's the fact that many women subconscioulsy, and sometimes consciously, use the fact of these differences in situation to suggest that they are "better" than men (more socialy skillfull, more "balanced" in their approach etc. etc.) while at the same time denying, when it is politically convenient, the fact that these differences exist at all. BTW I am genuinely curious: has any women ever had a guy try to pick them up by opening up a conversation on this subject? I find it difficult to believe anyone would do that, unless they were blind drunk.