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I used to get suspicious looks when I was in college when I had no problem enjoying sex. I never played the ol' "wow, I've never done anything like this before" game in the morning like my "nice" girlfriends did, who also really had done those things before. They used to coach me, saying I needed to play innocent more, and I just thought it was stupid.
Fast forward lots of years and these girls, who all married in their 20's to their perfect boyfriends and who appear to have the idealic marriages from their big homes and children, all tell me everytime we get together that they have no desire to have sex with their husbands. And when they do, it sounds pretty bland. None get oral. And the sex happens maybe once every two weeks or more.
One of those husbands I met first, gave him great oral according to him. Then he started dating my friend, the innocent one, several months later. She hates to give them and basically never does. Oh, she's got the ring and house and big money but neither of them gets laid very often. And both of them are in great shape so its not an attraction issue of marital weight gain.
So yeah, everytime I hear men whining about their sexless marriages, I think of all those guys in my past who considered me too slutty to take seriously. You can't expect chaste-acting women to suddenly turn vixen once you walk them down the aisle.
Oh, and I've never cheated on a boyfriend ever, one of the rationalizations I heard men use before; not being able to trust an experienced woman.
Honestly, LW, there is no need to discuss your sexual history with your next boyfriend. Its none of his business and only leads to problems like you have now. And I do hope you move on to another man. This guy is a controlling jackarse.
