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William Blake: The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom
In the journey to find love, in the romantic ideal, the wisdom of the past experience(s) would reinforce the relationship. Revolving around the concepts of trust and safety, and, perhaps, take the form:
If my love experienced this before we met, and feels safe enough to share it with me, then I feel safer because I know the truth, and that it has past; I in turn now seek to make them safer in appreciating this aspect of their life, and accept it as part of the journey that led to us being together
The LWBF seems to be a bit stuck on himself—loser.