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• Monday, December 18, 2006 08:05 AM

  It is in the PAST.

  And that is the bottom line. Whether you think, like Alex, that anyone who disagrees with the boyfriend is just a "typical angry feminist," or whether you think that anyone who has ever had a threesome is a totally irresponsible slut, or whether you think that everyone should always be able to do what they want sexually with no repercussions... the fact is, this guy is being irrationally insecure because this woman's exploit is in the PAST. She is with him, NOW. I cannot stand it when people get upset about their partners' pasts. It's not like it can be undone, and all adults have pasts, unless they are truly virgins. If you love someone, and they are with you monogamously (or at whatever priority level the two of you have worked out), then for pete's sake let go of whatever they've done before! And yes, I do believe there is a double standard with the whole "stud vs. slut" thing, but that is nearly beside the point here. I agree with the posters who said this guy had a "secret test," and she flunked it. Those kinds of tests are never fair, and he certainly has no right to lord it over her for the rest of her life, and make her feel ashamed of something she had previoiusly reconciled herself with. She needs to go find a boyfriend who's a bit more open-minded when it comes to his partner's sexuality.

  —fotini901 Read fotini901's other letters
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