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I agree with farafield, this disclosure was just an outlet for BF's jerkiness.
It would have been something else: LW isn't "nice enough" to Mom, LW is "too friendly" to Uncle Bob, she drank too much at Cousin Patti's wedding, clothing is "too slutty" or too unfeminine...
This type of man WILL find something to lord over a woman. He has an ideal that he feels he DESERVES. This, because he is so smart, so educated, so whatever... He is inherently deserving because he's a man. This is misogyny.
I learned years ago to run, run, run when a man leans in close & asks for a body count.
(Alex: good luck finding the Virgin Princess of your dreams. You the man!)