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After reading your responses back to folks writing in, I think I am in love with you! I admire the fact that you were straight up without thinking through whether to lie in the first instance. That seems like a good foundation to a lasting relationship to me right there.
I thought of "Chasing Amy" immediately when I read your letter, too, and I do not think that I have anything I could add to what Kevin Smith had to say through the movie generally or as Silent Bob. As Kevin Smith has talked about, it was a signficant issue to him, and something he had to do some thinking about. And, to me anyway, he did some great thinking.
It sounds great that your actually got to couples therapy. I hope you have a good, honest-to-God couples therapist, and not some general practice psychotherapist that thinks they know how to do couples.