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• Monday, December 18, 2006 09:53 AM

  Amen, Cary

  They guy is looney. So looney, in fact, that if he does agree to really DO therapy his therapist is going to come out of it will full tuition for all the kids in his or her family for the next 3 generations.

  THAT looney.

  Goodness. I understand a significant other being a bit perturbed by the specter of an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend who continues to haunt with encouragement from their partner. That goes the heart of trust issues. And trust issues are bad for a relationship.

  But a threesome? REALLY? I mean, what are you battling there? What's the fear? What's the concern?

  "OMG once my girlfriend got hammered and got it on with two people at the same time! My life with her is over! I must punish her with nitpicking and blame and derision for her entirely innocuous action that happened in the past, has no relevance to my life."

  Yeah. There's a HUGE disconnect there, and the only thing the CAN connect it is a huge pile of weird twisty neurosis.

  Hence the therapist. I mean, would anyone put up with a partner who destroyed their relationship after having found their partner, in the '80s, wore shoes with velcro? One could argue "But I find velcro SO offensive, that now every time I see my woman I picture her adjusting those nosiy and horrible little straps as she put on her shoes, and all the lint and detritus that gets caught in their grubby plasticene claws, and I'm just repulsed and driven to madness, and have no outlet but to make her feel bad. I cannot forgive her for her velcroed past."

  And yeah. That would be your hangup.

  But it's still ridiculous and looney, and still would suggest that therapy might be a good idea.

  And would still translate into "RUN!" for your partner.

  And so it goes with threesomes.

  —Betty
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