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"I, for one, alone as I may be in my opinion, cannot imagine punishing anyone for anything, day in and day out, with words and with silence, with glares and with avoidance, with hostile presence and hostile absence, judging, criticising, condemning, reducing the entire world I share with someone into an emotional chamber of horrors -- while doing my best to avoid any honest and open confrontation of the issues."
Yep. You just described my parents' marriage, till they couldn't stand being each other's tormentor/scapegoat anymore and finally separated in their senior years. It is a truly lousy way to live.