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• Friday, December 29, 2006 12:56 AM

  People wake up

  First of all I need to tell you i'm an pro-therapist and experimental psychologist. My primary specialization is drug addiction and i'm maybe even quite well known in my city (central europe). I'm here because it happened again that one of my clients showed me a link to an discussion like this because he has the same problem. Actually I also have a certain specialization in the "past issues" for a certain reason. Well my beloved wife also had an unconvential sex with two men involving alcohol and a large part of idiocy... what a coincidence isn't it??

  I would love to tell you every piece of empirical (empirical..not just thought out based on logic but on the real things) knowledge that I gathered troughout all of my 10 year experience with this. If I hadn't suffered something like this I would never beleive that there are strict patterns to this. I suffered it during my first years of therapy services. Probably this is why I know if the case is worth salvaging or not. Since i'm late there's nothing to salvage and afterall the probability was pretty low. I would love to tell all the... sorry for the adjective but ignorant and lucky people who have never hit problems like these to be quiet for a moment and let rather the sufferers talk. They should also stop speaking about evolutionary roles of different genders and all the double-standards stuff because from my empiricaly driven praxis I'm pretty sure that in the deepest level human conscious there's no such thing as a double-standard for these kind of emotions. I would also like to advise sufferers only to describe emotions and not try to say anything smart because that's only a fuel for ignorant people and some crazy feminists we have here.

  We psychologists know that once something goes wrong there's no way you can turn things back like they were before. For example that's why everyone who suffered drug addiction and got helped will be an abstinenting drug addicts for the rest of his life. Yes you might help people to acheive an overall higher level of life quality but these certain things will only represent a glued thrashed clay pot and therefore not as sturdy and nice looking as before.

  Past promiscuity is a deal-breaker 100 times in 100 and can either crash the pot or only scratch it. It only depends how are people good in positioning their emotional clay pots in the way of the ever swinging promiscuity ball. From my praxis I have seen that less inteligent people and people who have faith in metaphysical things are the ones who have a higher probability success. People who think too much, people who dig in their emotions deep, people who understands themselves perfectly are the ones with maybe a 5% success rate. So the more you know and the more you can realize things the more you get into a greater trouble or in rare instances into lesser problems (my case).

  Ill effects of past promiscuity are alot of times emotionaly even worse than the ones of infidelity. They affect everybody even people who have done the same exact things. The victim is ussualy the other person who have not done these things. People who have done these things ussualy have a very hard time doing any empathic connection to their beloved ones thanks to an very important divine-like self-defense mechanisms called the ego and self-worth. I had one case of a man who felt like a good for nothing piece of a cancerous polip for doing a threesome act because he had a full blast of empathic connection to his beloved girlfriend and denial of his ego/selfworth. He realised before reaching my help that the pot is really only glued and that almost cost him his fragile mind. Luckily we sorted it out and he's functioning quite normal again.

  So some people want to be cured by weak tricks (weak glue) and some want to be able to face their emotions with opposite emotions or facts that cause these emotions. I was the one who wanted to face it no matter what and I didn't want to use any of those illusionary tricks and i'm very happy that my case has been given a certain privilege to be glued quite solidly. But which privilege is it well that's something I cannot talk about because there are sufferers reading this and that would maybe crack their pots of faith. What's still completly sad for me that people who hasn't got over it or which have been dumped because of it still make the wrong assumptions over and over again. LW is also the one who's brain got jammed.

  I really cannot talk it too much since I don't want to put other sufferers to great risk too early - that would be very unfair of me and I just have to let it be. I would love to help of all of you. To help you salvage your relationship or leave it peacefully forever. But for any of the desired effect I would need to personaly know you and try to work with you day and night. And I have so many patients and work on my hands that I can't simply do it. I hope people who need help will find the correct ones who are not just magicians and illusionists but real emphatic creatures. This is the problem with today's allopathic medicine that it's so cold and money oriented that people are trapped in an grave illusion of normal average health.

  Dear sufferers. The only purpose of this what i write is to make you 100% positively beleive that there are people who really understand you and try to help you. I also understand people with no experience why they say things about it like that - which are sadly absolutely unfiar. The only thing I have to tell them is to consider themselves very very lucky.

  —Dr Dr
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