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Monday, December 18, 2006 12:00 AM

My boyfriend freaked out because I had a threesome

It happened before we were together, but he can't handle it and he's being a real jerk.

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  • Monday, December 18, 2006 08:33 AM

    Hypocrisy

    Anonymous wrote:

    "Captcrisis:

    I wrote the previous note and have not been in an MFF three-way.

    Any other false little hurdles you want to throw in the way?"

    ...

    No, I just pointed out that whether you yourself had been in a MFF threesome was quite a critical fact (hardly a "false hurdle") and now you've filled it in. I assume you are being truthful and not lying for the sake of posturing.

    As I said before, you are very fortunate. We can't control what turns us on (or off) or what obsesses us. It is good that you are not bothered by such a revelation.

    There are some remarkable things about this article.

    1. The sheer number of letters it has generated in such a short time.

    2. The percentage that go on and on about males being bothered by female's sexual histories and NOT dealing with the actual situation described. This makes me think that a lot of what Freud called "reaction formation" is going on.

    2. The lack of any assertion (apart from yours) from males who say that they are actually different from the BF here, i.e., that they would NOT have been bothered by this situation described.

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