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- To Joe, who said, "The only man that will not react this way is either so beaten down and depressed that he thinks he is lucky to have her, and could do no better than her, or a man who has had so much sex with so many women and possibly men that he really gives a rats ass what the woman has done in her own past. They could talk about their exploits and laugh about it. Now there would be a good match for her.":
I can handle being called a slut, but this response made me angry. Because you know what? My boyfriend IS lucky to have me. I'm smart, funny, talented, hot, good in bed, and a loyal girlfriend. My past sex life does not negate that. I am not interested in dating players and people who have no interest in real relationships. I want a man who realizes that often times the "slut" and the "girl you take home" reside within one person. So I would like to extend a big FUCK YOU to you, above all of the other people who questioned my sexual choices.
- To Alex: Could you please write me a manual on appropriate sexual conduct? Hell, while you're at it, could you give me the rules I so desperately need in all areas of my life? Could you let me know what "levels of promiscuity" are acceptable, understandable and forgivable? With all your book-learnin', I'm sure you have so much to teach me. I mean, with the two degrees that I have, I failed to learn that sex is so black and white.
You apparently missed the point of Chasing Amy, so I will cut and paste a quote that sums up the moral that perhaps you SHOULD have taken from that movie.
Silent Bob: [to Holden] So I get weirded out, and just start blasting her, right? This is the only way I can deal with it - by calling her a slut, and telling her that she was used - I mean, I'm out for blood I want to hurt her - because I don't know how to deal with what I'm feeling. And I'm like "What the fuck is wrong with you?" and she's telling me that it was that time, in that place, and she didn't do anything wrong, so she's not gonna apologize. So I tell her it's over, and I walk.
Jay: Fucking-A.
Silent Bob: No, idiot. It was a mistake. I wasn't disgusted with her, I was afraid. At that moment, I felt small - like I'd lacked experience, like I'd never be on her level or never be enough for her or something. And what I didn't get was that she didn't care. She wasn't looking for that guy anymore. She was looking for me, for the Bob. But by the time I realized this, it was too late, you know. She'd moved on, and all I had to show for it was some foolish pride, which then gave way to regret. She was the girl, I know that now. But I pushed her away...
[Silent Bob lights a cigarette]
Silent Bob: So I've spent every day since then chasing Amy...
-To brightstar65 and those of you who have implied that I make my boyfriend feel like he could never be a good enough lover to me: In addition to being honest with him about my past, I have also been totally honest in telling him how great he is in bed and how I would rather be with him than anyone else I've ever been with and that he has a great dick, etc. We all have our insecurities, and I think everyone should point out their lover's good qualities.
Anyway, I could elaborate all day. Thanks (to most of you!) for the feedback.
