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Me: Such a disclosure would mess ME (a male) up too. It would mess YOU up too (all you males). I'd like to see you deny it. Now tell me how you would try to deal with it. Well -- ?
LeCastor: why are you people always looking to speak for everyone? You're not okay with just your own judgment -- "it would mess me up." You need impute the rest of males too, to speak for all of them. What if you're in the minority (i.e. it wouldn't mess up most men)? Do you suddenly doubt your own views?
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I haven't seen ONE letter writer saying, "I'm a male and it would have been O.K. with me if my wife/girlfriend had been in a MFF threesome."
That is the only issue in LW's letter to Cary and, except for me and two or three others, not one single letter writer has addressed it.