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• Wednesday, December 20, 2006 03:14 PM

  Anon, again...

  You said: "And we want the guy - believe it or not, we don't want to live without you guys anymore than you want to live without us.

  This literally cannot be true, since the number of women who give up men and sex when there are people willing to sleep with them is many many many times the number of men who do the same. I'm not claiming women aren't genuinely interested and highly motived (in some cases anyway) but this is yet again another absurd claim, in violation of the plain facts clearly in evidence, that there aren't differences that matter."

  Just because a woman doesn't sleep with every man who wants to sleep with her doesn't mean she doesn't like sex or want sex or want men. Do you know how much sex I would have to have if I had to sleep with every man who wanted to sleep with me, just to prove to you that I like sex? And how many icky men I would have to sleep with? I like sex quite a lot (just ask my very happy boyfriend) but I still wouldn't go home with a random man for the reasons I mentioned in an earlier post-- fear of being raped or hurt, not to mention fear of diseases and pregnancy. In general, men are larger than women, and even a man the same size as me is considerably stronger. Sex generally happens in a private place, which means I am not going to be sleeping with men I don't know and trust, because it would mean putting myself in the situation of being alone, in my home or his, with a relative stranger who has the ability to beat me or kill me if he should so desire. So, yeah, I turn down opportunities for sex. For a woman, that's just sensible behavior. The first time I went over to my boyfriend's house (when we hadn't been seeing each other very long), I left his name and address with my friends and told them that if I didn't call, they should bust down the door with my German Shepherd leading the way. It might sound paranoid, but that's a precaution women have to take.

  I don't think there have been any studies done to find out which sex would be more ok with living without the other, but I can tell you that, while finding relationship partners is a big issue for both my male and female friends, my female friends think about it more and talk about it more as something really important to them.

  I think you're way off base to say it is an absurd claim that women we men as much as men want women.

  —lww
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