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You said, "the issue is whether in a modern civilized society, functioning according to the rules everyone agrees should apply (and again I am well aware that this is not always, to put it mildly, the case), women are willing to seriously consider the point of view of men when it conflicts with their own emotions in a way equivalent to what men are willing to try to do to try to get along with women. I think the answer is obvious and becoming more so by the minute."
Can you be more specific about what you're talking about? This started with a discussion of sex, so I read this as, "if it conflicts with a woman's emotions to have sex with a man, she should consider his point of view that he wants to sleep with her and do it because his point of view is equally valid."
Is this what you mean?