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I'm a little late to the game, but it seems to me Cary was right and wrong. Leave him because he is treating you poorly because he cannot come to terms with your threesome. However, all these people condemning him for being bothered by it are off-base. He does not have a double standard about this, as he himself has never had a threesome and would never consider doing so, since he considers sex "sacred" and all that. So he is simply holding her to the standards to which he holds himself. And you know what, I once dated a woman who I found out had had 22 partners before me. Maybe if I had had 22 partners myself, it would not have bothered me. But I hadn't, and it did. It was almost a primal thing. It was a deal-breaker. Sorry. Not that I wanted a virgin, I don't. But I did not want a woman who had slept with several strangers, as I do not sleep with stranger. So, again, no double standard there.
