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In college, I was similarly, obsessively jealous about my first girlfriend's sexual past. She had had a long-term sexual relationship with a previous boyfriend. I had had a single fumbling encounter in the sack. We had a great relationship and were even engaged to be married. But thoughts of her sexual experience were like a throbbing ache inside of me and I made her miserable about it. So we broke up. Just a few years later, after I had sown some wild oats, I couldn't believe how obsessed I had been about my wonderful girlfriend's past. Ever since (and I'm now 50), I've never been the least bit bothered by my girlfriends' and wives' sexual histories (though, to be sure, I'd rather not know all the details and haven't asked). Moral of my story: The letter writer's BF may not be a nut at all. Maybe he's just too young to settle down, as I was with my college girlfriend. My insane jealousy was nature's way of telling me that.
P.S. I agree that the response didn't sound like Cary at all. Much too judgmental. I also join the other men in scoffing at one woman's suggestion that men can go out and get laid anytime they want. Women have that prerogative, not men.
