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If this was 1970, I'd say go for it. I don't look at it as a moral issue. Back then you could sweep this kind of thing under the carpet and get on with your life. The Internet will let your fetish videos circulate for eternity, though. Do you really want this stuff floating around Google when you're 40, married with kids? It's not worth second guessing every look you get from guys for the next 20 years.