I see it every day in Newport Beach, Scottsdale, LA, West Palm Beach and other locales. See: Pam Anderson, and other older shot out women who are hanging onto their youth by their fingertips through surgery, lying about their age, acting like jackasses, attention whores. There are men like this to. No one can stop growing older. It is the train that keeps coming down the track. The mother is seriously fucked up. She hasn't gotten over the fact that she is over 40. She wants reinforcement that she is still "beautiful and desirable". She may be, for one night, but that is it. I would hit it with Pam Anderson and toss her around like a rag doll, bearing in mind I would have to glove up since she is probably carrying STD's, but that is far as it would go. The son needs to grow up. If the mother wants glamour shots, go to a professional photographer and get them. The son is acting like Oedipus. The mother like Jocasta. Losers. I am all for porn, nudity, great sex, experimentation, just not with my mother. That is just plain wierd. This is probably a fake letter. Nonetheless, "MILF's" ARE NOT HOT. They just mothers. Better to have a woman who doesn't have children.

I think the son should be a male stripper at his mom's bachelorette party, too! (and will he wear an edible thong?)

Um, I'll need to see pictures of the mom before I can make a carefully-considered comment.

If being a Pilgrim (or a Puritan, for that matter) for being extremely squicked out by any man participating in some sort of sexual exchange with his mother, and I do count 'bourdoir' aka bedroom pictures as sexual, because that is their intent, then YES I ADMIT IT!! I'M A PURITAN!!

Photographs like that are for the husband and wife to look at together to stimulate their sex lives, to increase their sex lives, and to enrich the 'spank bank experience.

I don't think mothers and sons should be having sex with each other. I don't think mothers and sons should be showing each other private sexual poses, acting sexual fantasies for each other to see, or taking kinky little pictures of each other. There it is. That's my feeling. That's it.

So YES!! Ewwwww.

As for a mother being sexy, well, sure, of course you can be sexy and be a parent.

Just not sexual with your own child. Good grief. There's a difference between being open-minded and just letting all sorts of things just crawl in there.

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Also, I'm gonna go ahead and throw my hat in with those who say this letter is fake. It reads like it was written by a rival, middle aged advice columnist, frankly. This LW is supposedly my age, but she uses words and phrases like:

"an amazing figure"

"go googly-eyed"

"fetching," and

"racy"

Now maybe I'm just living on the wrong side of the country, but people my age just don't talk like that. People my parents' ages talk like that. I think this is Dr. Laura on a panty raid.

-- Remo Williams

Haha, Remo! Excellent detective work. The concept seems manufactured enough, but the execution really seals the fakery. I couldn't put my finger on why the tone of this letter was so off (though I was willing to respond to it for entertainment's sake). You are so right -- this letter should have been riddled with "his mom's hot" and "she has an awesome bod." That fetching, racy, googly-eyed routine is OLD.

is a self-absorped, fucked up bitch. Dump him now. It is sick, uselesss and utterly fucked up. He has an oedipus complex in re his mother. If he wants to bed her, tell him to do so. She is hanging onto her youth by her fingertips. That sun has set on her life and she can't accept it so she is looking for approval and glorification from her loser son. He is offering it up. Do the math. Dump him. Get with someone healthy or who has a complimentary outlook on life with yours.

Given the amount of amateur porn on the net over the last 10 years or so I am sure it won't be long before teen age boys are coming across (pun) photos that their mothers made years earlier.

I just wonder how many of the people that responded to this letter have made nude shots for a boyfriend or husband with a digital camera or even a cell phone?

Recently I bought a used cell phone and was able to very easily recover bank account numbers, business sms and emails and a number of photos ranging from boring to hard core. I discovered that the phone had been owned by a business woman in Chicago originally. I bought the phone from a brick and mortar store in California.

Just a lesson about not throwing stones if there is any glass in your house.

I for one am no puritan. I live in Europe and think that Americans can be ridiculously prudish. I'll gladly go topless on the beach, even with parents around (but you see even that is within a context). This is not just about nudity, or just about sex. It's about not having privacy boundaries with your parents. Yes, I know that some families are just that cool, but even in Europe, and particularly in the US, that is more the exception than the rule. I live amongst the Dutch - the heros of liberalism - and the friends I've asked also find this very wierd. They're all for sex, but don't want the idea crossed with that of their parents.

This guy's mom is asking him to *particiapte (even if indirectly) in the super private side of her that children usually do not want to know about. Plus, the fact that the wife isn't worried her husband will compare her with all the other beuatiful brides he photographs, but is worried about comparison with the mom, makes me suspect that this is not the very first of her feelings that the son/mom relationship is a little short on boundaries (i.e. wierd). Granted, beacuse the mom is so relatively close in age to her son, perhaps that makes them more like "friends" than most. But if their boundaries are not...let's say, "mainstream", then they could explain what they are to the wife so that she can be more comfortable (knowing where they are...Plus it is a good opportunity fot the mom/son to examine th question themselves in an objective manner.).

However, if we give the benefit of the doubt to them and even say that the professional side of it all does cloud their vision...still, they should be able to appreciate that it makes the wife uncomfortable. She's not just a jealous puritan if she normally has no problem with his photography. For a one time deal, I think he can respect her wishes.