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just an fyi, since so many people who have herpes have no symptoms (statistically, it's quite high), you really don't know whether or not you caught herpes from your ex boyfriend. unless you have an active outbreak there is no reliable test for it... ergo, you may have it and not know it and can, like the rest of us, give it to others.
i'm not meaning to be insipid, but herpes is an insipid virus.
unless you've had an outbreak and had it tested (or are a virgin who's never even been naked with anyone of the opposite sex) there's really no way of knowing whether you have herpes or not.