Letters to the Editor
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I can understand that
As a man, I can appreciate fully the husband's reservations. Nature's ability to get women to forget just how miserable they can be during pregnancy is as important a factor in procreation as the pleasurable feelings associated thereto that my wife calls "mother nature's cruel joke."
A standard joke for me when people ask how long I have been married is to say, "In human years or dog years, because a couple of them were real dogs, like every goddamn pregnancy." There were four of those, by the way.
So this guy is thinking he is done with all of that shit. Done with emotional ups and downs. Done with a wife in desperate need of sleep. Done with the late trimester sexual shutdown followed by the post partum recuperating period. Who knows if there were emotional issues, too. Perhaps the LW does a Yates woman impersonation?
Likewise, the LW is no spring chicken conception wise. Yeah, women can conceive at 40 albeit at lower percentage rates than when younger, but that's a lot of strain on the body. Our IUDidn't baby came onto the scene when we were both 39. My wife admits it was a bigger strain on her than the three prior ones in her late 20s and early 30s. She was also off the wall much more with the last one.
Those are all the selfish reasons why I can see the husband objecting to the surrogacy. It will ruin his sex life, turn his wife into a bloatfish, potentially cause her harm, and more than likely make her emotionally volatile and therefore tougher to live with. Jeez. Sign me up for that living situation.
Or it could be a moral resistence. We spend countless thousands of dollars to make babies on the one hand while we have kids in foster homes. Throw in abortion and the fact we can also do in vitro surgeries to safe fetuses around the same age some get aborted, and we have a huge cauldron of moral dilemmas when it comes to the applicaton of science to our procreative abilities.
That, of course assumes he is thinking with his big head rather than the little head in his pants. My bet is on the little head doing the talking with respect to his resistence to this surrogate pregnancy, as it SHOULD be.
Oink.