Letters to the Editor
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From Personal Experience
I think the LW should not carry a child for her sister. But not just because of the husband. I was surprised that the LW did not mention any potential complications regarding the emotional attachment she is very likely to have to the child. I am sure she will be a very devoted aunt--because she is the mother. The LW wasn't specific, but even if it isn't the LW's egg, there will be an attachment. In my family, my younger sister carried a child for my older sister. The husbands were not opposed. Unfortunately, almost immediately after the child was born, my sisters began to have disagreements as to the level of involvement the sister who carried the child should have. She felt a bond. She wanted to be more than a devoted aunt. It absolutely destroyed the relationship between my sisters. They no longer speak, my one sister is not permitted to see the child and the whole experience was extremely destructive. Please consider adoption.