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Get in touch with NAMI (The National Alliance on Mental Illness - www.nami.org). They offer a free, 12-week class called Family-to-Family, taught by people who've been (and still are) there. Topics include medication issues, dealing with crises, caring for caretakers and ways to find community resources. The most healing piece of the class is finding out that you're not alone - when I took the class, and subsequently went through the 30-hour training marathon required to become a F-2-F faciliator, many of my fellow trainees commented to one-another that "as bad as I thought my situation was, I can't imagine going through what you have..."
It will help you a lot.
Good luck:
Amy Waldman