Letters to the Editor
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Don't do what you don't want to do.
It is that simple. I shaved once out of curiousity and I disliked it immensely. I didn't like the look, I didn't like the work in upkeep, I didn't like the discomfort. So I don't do it and I won't do it.
My boyfriend is very chill about such things, he sees no reason for me to shave it clean. Trimming makes things neater and easier for oral and he trims it for me and it makes a fun time all around.
For the record, I shave my armpits but I do not shave my legs. No real reason except I don't care what my legs look like and I don't like the way hairy pits feel.
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What's a girl to do??
Girl, I feel you. I don't want to shave mine either! And I feel worried because most guys do seem to love that.
I don't mind a trim, but I definitely don't see myself waxing any time soon!
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and another thing
one of the reasons i think the divide of shaving/not shaving has to do with age is that those of us who don't shave everything learned a lot about sex by reading those stolen 70s copies of "the joy of sex"... you know the ones, where men have beards and women have hairy armpits, etc.
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Au naturel for me; porn culture is for freaks
As a child of the seventies, I like the pubes. I prefer my significant other to leave her underarms unshaved also. (she intermittently indulges me). I'm really very put off by the young guys at the gym who shave their arms and chests. It doesn't seem quite right, same as for a shaved pubes on a woman. I mean, hygiene, and a little trim around the edges for tidiness in a bathing suit, but the infantile look I find vaguely pedophilic.
So, to your letter writer, maybe she's dating too many young guys, metrosexuals who wax, primp, and preen. Come back to the cave men, sweetheart.
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Full Bush
I love a full bush. A shaved crotch reminds me of, at best, a blow-up doll, and, at worst, a sexless Barbie.
It's also de-humanizing. Hair is human. Hair grows on warm, sensitive human skin. Hair does not grow on cold, insensitive plastic. A hairless crotch looks cold and insensitive. It does not look human. Maybe that's why the guys who like that look prefer it. They would actually rather have sex with a blow-up doll, but they just can't admit it.
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an excellent compromise
rather than go au naturale or shave completely, may I suggest a personal grooming trimmer. 1/4 inch. no ingrown hairs, not too 12-year-old looking, and men seem to like it just as well as shaved. at least in my experience.
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It's the 21st Century Girl!
Sure, personal hygiene is your choice, but as someone around your age group, I would run far, far, away if presented with someone who doesn't bother to practice what is now considered normal grooming. I don't recall a single one of my male friends ever claiming that they would like women with more hair! I'm sure you can find some fetishists on the web if you look for them, but If you can't bother to take 5 minutes and at least trim your bush, I doubt that's the only problem you have...
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lovin' your keener
I am surprised how PRO-BUSH some of these comments are!!! Having your keener waxed or otherwise is all about what you, the owner of the keener, want. I agree a little maintenance goes a long way. It's more comfortable for all parties involved. Personally, my wax lady calls it the pizza slice, not too thin, but not peeking out of the sides of your kini either (a la the Amorica album cover.)
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as for me
Female, don't shave. Trim occasionally. My husband couldn't care less.
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I say do what you want
See, I'm "well into my 40's" and all, and frankly I'd love it if some guy was telling me I should shave - if only because that meant there was a guy in the vicinity of my pussy.
So I would count your blessings that you've had some guys near your pussy, and if they ask you to do something you don't want to, move onto the next one. Please yourself - you don't want to get caught in some shave/pluck/stubble nightmare trying to please some numbnuts who doesn't like you the way you are.
I'm a child of the 70's and pretty much anything went back then except "sideburns" - hair at the top of the thigh.
I've done the landing strip Brazilian a couple of times but I'm not thrilled with having someone powder my ass like I'm an infant to wax it . . . and having almost immediate 5:00 shadow.
And by the way, they're straight down there! I can't get a nice bush going because they don't curl.
Anyway, so I'll probably go back to the nicely trimmed look, no sideburns.
And when someone does decide to spend some time down there, he can tell me what he likes in terms of hair. And if I feel like it, I might listen.
Please yourself.
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waning and waxing
LW. do what you like. I wax my legs and the upper crease of my thigh and keep my pubic hair neat and trim. I do it that way because I like to feel clean and to make access easy. No man has ever complained or asked for anything else. Those that like oral sex seemed very happy with the pleasure they were giving me. One guy (great lover, by the way) told me he liked a big bush and wished mine was fuller! Go figure.
I personally can't go beyond the upper crease of the thigh because I am very sensitive and even waxing as far as that brings tears to my eyes. But I find waxing better for my skin than shaving near that area, so I pretend to be stoic for the few seconds it takes.
I'm so sensitive, I think if I had a Brazilian and some guy went down on me, I'd probably elevate out of the bed and hover around the ceiling somewhere!
Hmmm....
Would it be worth it for the experience? No, no and still no! I'm a wuss.
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ps to Cary - I hope we are bringing a smile to your face. Florida in August can't be any fun.