Letters to the Editor
-
Shaved... not shaved
I am happy as long as I am invited to the party.
I think people get too picky so they have a reason they aren't getting anything. Like the short guy who'd only shoot 3 pointers... "well yeah I missed, look how for back I was!"
Then again, I'd bleach mine if wifey said she'd like it better. Again, if it gets me invited to the party...
Big D
-
My life in the bush of ghosts
Call me old school, but I like the bush. Ultimately, it's the ladies' call, but I don't mind if she lets it grow. Never really bothered to analyze why, but there you go -- another vote for bush.
-
Bush is on the Downlow
Blame the Idiot In Chief. Anything associated with bush meets with disapproval. As far as I'm concerned, as Maria Muldaur said so eloquently all those years ago, it's not the meat, it's the motion.
-
Lose the fur-burger
As a straight female who grew up with a healthy attitude about sexuality and a strong feminist backbone, I find a clean look down there very sexy. If we're being honest, my boyfriend can give me excellent head with or without my pubes, but boy oh boy is it better without. It looks so pornstar-ish and sexy. Plus, when I wax, I get to him with the electric trimmer and clip his pubes right down. At first he thought it was "gay" too, like many guys, but when I pointed out that his nubile 20 year old girlfriend wanted to clip off the pubes so she could give him better deep throat, he quickly got over his prejudices and started loving the new look. He looks bigger, it's easier to keep fresh and clean in summer, and yes, I can more easily lick every inch of him, to be perfectly frank.
LW, seriously. Suck it up and trim that bush down. You don't have to do the full Brazilian (though I highly recommend it), but at least keep it "crewcut."
-
Answers to Your Actual Questions
Dear My Cats Don't Mind Fur,
Who knows if "most" women do this today? All I know is that many of the men I date like it, and often they trim or shave their pubic areas as well. I've been trimming or shaving for over 10 years, for myself first, and then for men who like it. (And, just for the record, there is no part of my body with or without hair that looks like a baby's, since I'm well into my forties.)
There are of course guys who either don't mind pubic hair au naturel or even prefer it. I recently met one and had to disappoint him. I've also seen guys post online personals ads looking for unshaved women.
Whether or not you end up a lonely old lady who yells at her neighbors has more to do with who your friends and neighbors are than whether or not you choose to shave your pubic hair.
Finally, a little unasked-for advice: the next time a man asks you to shave, tell him you will if he does. (I can say that oral sex on a man with smooth testicles and trimmed hair all around is a pleasant experience for both parties.) If he says okay, you two will be doing each other a mutual favor for enhanced pleasure. If he says no way, then you know you've found a real loser.
-
welcome to the new millenium
i have noticed this trend only in the past 10 years, max. what i've seen/experienced are a whole lot of men (i tend to date younger ones; i'm 40, they're younger) who think shaving/waxing is the norm. the way most of us older folks think shaving out legs and pits is the norm. ergo, they think it's gross.
it doesn't help that women's mags perpetuate this, as does porn. these "kids" think it is what it is. and that's all they know, and they think the other is foul. marie claire mag is a perfect example,as they've had huge articles about this interviewing lots of men, most of whom want hairless women.
the boys/young men also shave their back and chests and legs because they're used to everyone around them being hairless. and they shave their pubes, which is just plain creepy.
i've dealt with a lot of pubic hair "questions" because i'm a redhead (any redhead will tell you the same...), so i've long since gotten embarrassed discussing my pubes. which are neatly trimmed, waxed ONLY on the SIDES if i'm hitting the beach.
if you don't like my body, i'm sure you can find some lovely nubile girl who'll be as soft and smooth as one of those hairless pussycats. pun intended
-
Of Course I'm a Bit Old School But
A Wild Freaky Bush is the most Erotic Sight Known to Man. At least to this Man. Your pubic hair is there for a reason - to drive the primitive, uninhibited wild man crazy with desire. And it works.
About 25 years ago, I had the fortune (misfortune?) to have witnessed a fairly average looking woman in her underwear. She did have beautiful hair and nice full lips...and a bush so thick her panties bulged. The hair actually pushed it's way out of her panties. To this day I am haunted by the fantasy of having her. After having shared this fantasy with a lot of men I can tell you this... I'm not the only one who is aroused by a beautiful, wild bush.
So my advise is...if your inclination is to remain natural and you seriously question why anyone would want you to shave...wait until you attract the sexy beast who's vision of eroticism is a sexy, natural woman who answers to the call of the wild.
Mark
San Francisco
-
Mow your lawn
Mow your lawn, but don't kill your grass. Armpits, fingernails, etc. all require some form of regular maintenance. Most people don't, however, *remove* their fingernails, or let them grow to be three inches long. So unless you are going for a World Record, do whatever your comfort level requires, but at least do *something*. Inability to do basic body maintenance is usually a sign of poor social skills or low self esteem!