Letters to the Editor
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Something to consider...
A hairless pussy is a dry pussy (in my experience, anyway). A dry pussy is a sexually unsatisfied pussy. Enough said.
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'down there' is sensitive
please don't compare it to shaving your face, guys. it's very sensitive. And BTW, many women are waxing their lips, chins and eyebrows, not to mention plucking those areas daily so you don't realize that women generally have facial hair.
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Why I shave
The first time I shaved, no one asked me to, I hadn’t seen a porno, I was just shaving my legs and thought “hmmmm…” and kept on shaving. What a surprise I was in for.
Here’s a little thought experiment. Take your hand and softly stroke your cheek; run your fingers lightly along your jaw line. Feels nice, yes? Now imagine you were a man with a full beard. Would you even feel those caresses? There’s a world of sensation you’re missing with a labia majora covered in hair. When I first shaved down there I discovered that here was the softest skin anywhere on my body. And the first time my boyfriend went down on me hairless was mind blowing! Here was skin that had never before been licked…the last time it had been hairless was before puberty - before I was sexually active. After years and years of sex with a hairy pussy this was a totally new and pleasurable experience. Things get nice and slippery down there with no hair. It’s fun.
If you’ve never heard of Dan Savage’s sex advice column, "Savage Love," you should check it out. One thing he counsels us to be is GGG in bed. That is, a Good, Giving, and Game sexual partner. If your lover asks you to try something new, be game and give it a whirl. Maybe you decide you don’t like it or maybe, being pushed beyond bounds you might not otherwise cross, you discover you love whatever it is he asked you to try. And of course he should be GGG too if there is anything you desire him to do for you in bed.
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Shaving
Here's something for you to think about...When I started dating my fiancee, I was a virgin and I had no idea that people shaved or did anything with the pubic hairs. When we started having sex, he didn't say anything for a while, but then one day, he brought up the subject of all of my hair. He told me that he was getting cut when we were having sex, and he would like me to shave before we had sex. I never thought about it before, but I wanted it to be pleasurable for him as well, so I shaved everything. He hasn't complained since. Even though you may be uncomfortable about doing it, you need to think about his comfort as well. BTW, I'm overweight as well and I'm completley comfortable with how I look when I'm shaved down there.
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Au Natural
As a 40-something male, I prefer totally shaven nether regions on my wife. Whilst it might be considered a fad these days, my first experience with a shaven woman was some 25 years ago. We were both about 20 at the time.
The arguments against shaving are typically the same:
- It is not natural.
- It itches when it grows back in.
- The requestor is a pervert (with references toward pedophilia).
The best argument is: "It's my body, and I don't care if you prefer it that way." At least it is honest. Taking the other arguments in turn.
- Natural? It might not be natural, but neither is shaving your legs or armpits or plucking eyebrows or wearing jewelry or makeup. If you do non of these unnatural acts, then you just might have a valid argument.
- Itches? Sure, it might itch. Perhaps the secret is to not let it grow back. There are also other methods then shaving that are less itchy.
- Pedophilia? Please. Don't flatter yourself. You are an adult woman. You probably have breasts. You are not pre-pubescent.
The bottom line is if you don't like it, don't do it. But don't complain about the guys that want it. Date different guys.
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The tropics
Please don't cut down that beautiful jungle! I don't like hairy legs or pits, but the big triangle is a marker for something wonderful. Also, please eat a cheeseburger and put some flesh on those bones. Love those thighs touching and powerful peasant haunches. Please don't shave!
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Long hair is better than scratchy nasty stubble.
Okay, here's the thing. First of all, I am a heterosexual woman. I just want to make that known. Out of curiousity, though, I have recently been veiwing a lot of "close-up" porn sites. And if you ask me, a lot of these shaved women would look better with some hair down there! Let's face it. Not every woman has perfectly formed labia. In fact, most women, I have recently discovered, DO NOT! Many are downright gross. However, if there was some hair covering that up a little bit, it might help. So here's my point. If you are practically PERFECT down there -which in my opinion means you have very tiny and cute and perfectly formed labia, then go ahead and shave all your hair off. If not; employ your pubic hair as camoflage. Then again, I'm not into oral sex, so I probably should not even be responding! I'm more into "how things look." Now my labia is nice and small, but I don't shave all the way because of something I hate more than hair, WHICH IS STUBBLE! Why doesn't the issue of stubble ever come up? Stubble feels worse than long hair! It's scratchy and nasty, and you would think it could give a guy rope burn on his face. But here's a sort of "make-shift" solution: just trim, (or if you must, shave) the outer lips of your vagina, and that's it. Think of it like a compromise. Luckily, my husband likes hair. Unfortunately, the guy I'm cheating with, wants me to shave!
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Couple's pov
My wife of 28 years sometimes has her pussy fully waxed, as a gift to me. Sometimes she lets it grow back. It's not a huge deal, I'm crazy about her with or without hair. But I do very much appreciate it when she does. She just had 55-year-old pussy waxed for my 64th birthday, a sweet gift.
At night in bed, I often cup either her breast or pussy (without desire for lovemaking)--when she's bare, I somehow feel more intimate. I like to think at those times her vulva feels loved in ways that wasn't always the case.
The "if-you-like-bare-you-must-like-prepubescent-girls" comments are absurd, but if ignored, might confirm the presumption. It just feels like a cheap shot (what guy wants to be lumped with pedophiles, even casually?). Like another LW, even the thought of sex with prepubescent girls disgusts me. Anyway.
Her point of view:
I just let my pubic hair grow for a several months, and I liked it--both the sensory feeling and the look. But being bare brings my husband so much pleasure (and not just sexual), that even though left to my own devices I wouldn't do it, it feels like a small investment for a large reward.