Letters to the Editor
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So am I to understand
women need never lift a finger to please men's desires or whims but men better pay attention to what she wants YOU to do or else she will leave you.
this is the gist of what I am reading in these 250+ posts.
The wonder is that this minor issue of shaving one pubes garners so much concern when this country has so many bigger problems.
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Re: brightstar
<<women need never lift a finger to please men's desires or whims but men better pay attention to what she wants YOU to do or else she will leave you.
this is the gist of what I am reading in these 250+ posts.>>
Brightstar, this is the gist of what you read in every post.
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hairless = unprotected
Besides the question of whether a shaved muff is sexy, infantile, hygienic or a sign of a sick mind, there's a bigger point to be made here--which is that there's a REASON we have hair down there. It keeps dirt and bacteria out of places we'd really, really rather they not be.
Many doctors will readily tell you that not having any pubic hair makes both men and women more susceptible to infection, not to mention irritation of that delicate skin.
Clearly, a large number of women are doing just fine without their fur, so it can't be all that big a threat. But many others, myself included, suffer the consequences of its loss. For this reason I tend to lean toward a nice close trim.
Something to think about...so LW, if you choose keep your cover and need a good reason to tell the BF, tell him what the doctors say...
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My afternoon
has flown by, reading the range of responses to this letter. Nice work people!
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The Real Reason
When men who are 40 now were enjoying the fondly recalled Zeppelin-like explosions of autoeroticism of their late teens and early 20s, another cultural phenomenon was creeping in - the presence of (in some cases multiple) VHS players in the home (and dorm rooms, of course.) Before this point in sexual history, the same experience was enjoyed through good old-fashioned glossy magazines, complete with still furry (but quite creatively airbrushed) pubes.
With the advent of VHS came VHS porn, which was incapable of rendering discernible "plumbing shots" unless the participants were both shaved, or at the very least trimmed down to golf course green levels. Slowly but surely the transfer of male video-ingrained preferences to female practices was accomplished through young couples (or groups) watching porn together, either before or actually during sex.
Most of the remaining hairy holdouts were removed from the boink pool by the turn of the millenium, as similarly grainy downloadable internet porn became available for free over high-speed connections, and thus became responsible for far more orgasms than DVDs.
We of the last remaining fuzzies, holding off the massed Roman army of shavedness from atop our Masada of pubic hair may take heart in the fact that once a significant people in their 40s are engaged in a cultural fad, it's well on its way to Not Being Cool Anymore. The peak of shaving coolness seems to have already passed, coinciding roughly with the coolness peak of the Base Of The Back Celtic Knot Tattoo, which has been fading from popularity since around '02. Once the next generation of 18-24s start regarding "American Pie" as quaint-but-retarded in the same way that the current generation regards "Porky's," you can rest assured that the current wave of idiotic sexual conformity will have passed, and that we will probably be well on our way to a new one.
Surgical alterations to match the CGI-enhanced plumbing shots, anyone?
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a different point of view
I can't resist responding from the point of view of a 67 year old crone--in my case, also a breast cancer survivor.
At some point you'll have to accept the ravages of time and disease--or just stop living.
Chemotherapy destroys all body hair, including eyebrows and pubes. When mine grew back, I decided never to shave again. Underarm hair is sparse. Lower leg hair still needs waxing, although I do it infrequently.
While my pubic hair was absent, I had to ask my husband to forego sex for a while. It was too tender, so I learned the reason for pubic hair.
Now the hair has grown back, but it's sparse. I can see (in the mirror) the outlines of my genitals.
Such is being old, imperfect, scarred. But still alive.
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Shaving Tip for Sisters
I too had a painful shaving experience when I was in my teens and swore I'd never do it again. Now I'm 47 and, for the first time since my twenties, I'm having a very hot, very fun physical relationship. So I decided to try again and found that the proper shaving gear makes ALL the difference...
1. Seiko S-Yard Model ES-412 Cleancut Shaver
2. Genuine Seiko S-Yard PS-335 Femini T Handle Trimmer (To trim area to stubble length)
3. 4 oz Bottle of Tend Skin Lotion for Ingrown Hairs and Razor Bumps
4. ForDustin body powder non-caking corn starch.
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S-Yard Model?
What are you doing? Weed-whacking??!!
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Its YOUR body
Surely you are dating to make yourself happy, rather than as a favour to these various ungrateful men. Let your body look how you want it to look, and how you find it sexy. It doesn't matter whether thats completely natural, tidy round the egdes or completely brazillian.
Don't be afraid to tell them: "Actually, I prefer it like this".
A man who is prepared to make you feel bad or inadequate at the beginning of a realtionship is never going to make you feel better about yourself later!
q
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Keep it natural
I think there is a sickness in our culture. I am a man. Turned 45 yesterday married for the past 20 years. I am sickened by the idea that my fellows would find anything erotic in a shaved pubis. It seems that they are interested in something beyond the woman they are with and have become fixated on the very young. It seems absurd to shave down there. Perhaps you could ask them to shave themselves and see what response they give? I can't imagine a man wanting to look like a little boy or a woman wanting to look like a pre-pubesent child. I think that's the ticket. Say buddy, shave your own before you ask me to shave mine. What are we becoming? Everyone, grow up, you have hair, you are human, you are going to grow old and your hair will turn white and you will die. It is not a bad thing. Enjoy your partner as they are, hair and wrinkles it is a chance to live an authentic life. Not some perversion.