Letters to the Editor
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Find an older man?
I think this is sometimes a generational issue. Those of us who are over 40-something remember when it was a countercultural/hippie thing for both sexes to have hair everywhere, including your legs and pits. For those of us that were into that culture, it was a norm and a fashion choice. Like-minded men who wanted to get laid during this era either had or learned to have an appreciation/respect for female body hair. I was one of these people and so was my husband (thank-god).
Now the style for everyone is to be as hairless as possible all over and to be exposing as much of our hairless and surgically enhanced bodies as possible. It his become a norm and a fashion choice. I understand that there are potential "benefits" to being shaved. However, I happen to get terrible ingrown hairs, pain and itching from shaving and I'm not removing it for anyone, even if it means the end of a relationship.
I think you should find someone who likes you the way you are, there are still men around who like it. There are plenty of great sex toys to tide you over until one comes along.
D
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Different perspective..........
After almost ten years in the goth scene, I've noticed that shaving is pretty well the norm there. This goes for both females and males. I have male friends who say that shaving makes their genitals look bigger, and most of my male partners have shaved their chests. Many females I know shave their arms as well. This isn't to try to look "pre-pubescent," it's because smooth skin just feels better.
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Try Just Trimming
Sure, there are a number of drawbacks to having a naked pubic area. Waxing is expensive and hurts. Shaving regularly is a lot of trouble, and letting the hair grow back in can be itchy. Looking and feeling totally exposed can be uncomfortable for various psychological or physical reasons.
On the other hand, a full bush (for men or women) has the major disadvantage in that it can be less-than-optimal when receiving oral sex. Did you ever see the episode of "Curb Your Enthusiasm" where Larry David gets a pubic hair caught in the back of his throat and vows not to go back down there for a long time? Having to navigate around hairs (much less coping with loose hairs) can distract from the task at hand and also prevent the stimulation of all those sensitive areas.
As an experiment, I suggest that both men and women try using a nail scissors to trim their pubic hair as short as possible. This is an easy, low-maintenance solution to the oral-sex problem. It also provides a bit of coverage for the genitals without covering them up, thereby creating a come-hither feeling.
Most of us don't choose to let the hair on our heads grow wild or to shave it all off.
Think of the pubic area in the same way. Hopefully it's a solution that will make both you and your partner happy.
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Nomenclature
Okay, enough already! "Pussy," "muff," "hoo-hoo," etc., they're all fine euphemisms for vulva or pudendum. But (damn Eve Ensler to hell) what we're talking about is NOT "vagina." (That semi-literate bitch has set us back decades, I swear.)
TO CLARIFY: The vagina is the INTERNAL canal leading from the uterus/cervix to the EXTERNAL genital area. It is lined with mucus membranes. It DOES NOT grow hair. The EXTERNAL genital area (i.e., vulva and/or pudendum) DOES grow hair. Fuss/don't fuss with yours as you choose.
(Christ on a cracker...)
If you've got hair growing on/in your vagina, grooming is FAR from your biggest problem.
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Hair? What hair?
I'm a musician who had extensive sexual experience with many women before I got married 27 years ago. I've been happily monogamous since then. I don't recall the pubic hair of any of the more than 100 women I slept with, though I certainly recall making love to them. I know that my wife's pubic hair is light brown, but I have to think about it a minute to be sure.
I love oral sex, giving and getting. You would think that if the presence of pubic hair was a problem, I would remember pubic hair. But I don't. Of course there was the occasional hair in the throat, but what a small price to pay! I do remember the taste and the texture of that wonderful place, the clit, the lips ... oops, I'm veering too close to porn, sorry.
I think a few of the women I slept with were shaved -- I was active before it was popular -- and I do remember not liking that as much. It didn't feel or look as good to me. Sex aside, I like women. I like them bubbling over with hormones. I like them on the rag. I like them pregnant. I just like them. Love them, actually. I don't mind hair on their legs, or under their arms, though my wife shaves in both places. It wouldn't bother me if she didn't. I want the person. I want to devour her and be devoured. What's a little hair between friends? And lovers.
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pedophiliaphobia
Pedophilia has become such an irrational fear in modern American culture that some people see it in something that is nothing more than a current fad. Shaved pubes don't make an adult into a child any more than sprouting hair makes an adolescent an adult.
This crazed fear of pedophilia is the modern equivalent of the fear of communism that gripped America after WWII. It's even being used to justify the same kind of prying and spying that we went through back in the McCarthy era. Unfortunately, I doubt that we'll have an Edward Murrow or a Joseph Welch to shut it down.
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Hairy decisions
When I was a puberty-immersed kid, some twenty years ago, just seeing a few pubic hairs on a female lovely was the gist of many future autoerotic experiences. Now, most of my friends believe that women should have no hair visibly growing below their eyebrows. Personally, I always derive some joy out of discovering how a lovely tends to her potentialy fur-guarded love shack. I won't lie; I prefer sampling the down unders when its womanicured, (no need for baldness, however) but females should handle their e-zones as they wish.
I don't buy the argument that men are simply looking for pubescent pubes. Trends of attractiveness and desirability have always existed and mutated (I have a feeling that completely unshaved females will be at minimum an underground trend within the decade) No doubt, the requirements for beauty are unfairly applied to women, but other rigorous roles have been assigned to males in the rules of engagement.
And they are changing. In the National Basketball Association, an increasing number of gentlemen are shaving their pits, certainly in concern for the aesthetic presentation to their admiring fans, male and female. Recently, women of all races in the U.S. are going to and graduating from colleges with bachelors and higher degrees in decidely greater numbers than men. Will the new desirable female also be the more educated, better paid, more hirsute individuals in the relationship?
Maybe, but in the interim, if you shave your pussies, do it in protest to the current administration.