Letters to the Editor
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Observations of a single guy in Utah
I'll give you the perspective of a single man(36) living in the most Republican state in the nation.
In the past 5 years since I've been newly single I've had the opportunity to inspect some 30+ women's habits about trimming. I can only think of 2-3 that weren't shaved or trimmed. It's a good 90% plus. These are women ranging in age from 20-35 and of various social backgrounds.
What was strange for me was 4 years ago a girlfriend asked me to trim or shave down there. As a man this concept was completely foreign to me. I'd heard of manscaping but usually in the gay community. Well I took the leap and I have found that I prefer a nice trim on the pubes and a clean scrotum. And my partners since have commented on how much nicer a groomed man is.
For the record I prefer a nice trim on a woman. It's more hygienic and it makes for easier and more enjoyable oral sex.
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How about a topiary?
Some* men don't mind the full bush; some* actually prefer it. If Furry One feels the need to "do something" about this, she may want to consider trimming her bush instead of shaving it. It's certainly more comfortable for the woman, and some* men are fine with it. (*Furry One cannot, of course, please all of the men all of the time.)
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Bearded Menfolk
"It bothers me that women continue to go to such lengths to look the way they think guys want them to look. I truly think the levels of poor self-esteem among women is at epidemic proportions in this country."
Oh for god's sake.
Can I assume then that every single woman who vociferously objects to muff-trimming/ shaving/ waxing/ lasering only dates men with full bushy untrimmed facial hair?
Me, I love goatees on men. I go a little bit crazy whenever I see a guy with a nicely-shaped, well-trimmed goatee. I don't think men who wear their beards in a goatee (and shave around them every day and keep them trimmed once a week or however often they do so) are suffering from low-self esteem, do you? I mean *that* takes some effort, making sure you get the lines right in the first place, and then if you have a beard that goes along the jawline you've got to be careful about keeping it even on both sides. Is that a sign that men who shape their facial hair -- or shave every day to make sure they have none at all -- are suffering from low self-esteem at epidemic proportions?
Get real.
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Not Much Difference
Other than appearance, there really is no difference in having sex shaved or with hair. I'm a woman and have done it both ways. There is no heightened sensitivity. The sensitive parts don't have hair on them in the first place. The part you shave is just skin. The difference is psychological and visual.
I say whatever you do, do it for yourself. If you like it shaved, shave. If you like it bushy, go bushy. If you like to switch things up occasionally, do it. It's your pussy.
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I love bush.
And armpit hair.
I think shaved pussy feels cool to eat, but it's also a very strange idea. The most unattractive thing about it isn't the look itself, it's that it comes (for most shavers) from distaste of our natural features. People's hair embarasses them, and that's totally lame.
I also don't like makeup, so you can disregard me as a dirty hippie. I'll be chatting up all your unshaved daughters.
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Gross!
I've never gone for the full brazillian wax... but when I did a partial one (leaving a strip of hair around the sensitive bits), it was horrible! I went to a waxer who several of my friends recommended, she was pretty expensive, too... and the skin where I was waxed was sore and covered in red bumps for about a week! Gross! Trust me, if you have sensitive skin... IT DOES NOT FEEL GOOD.
Also--and more importantly--I hated the way it looked. I felt like my pussy went from being this awesome, sexy, wild part of my body to this little shameful trimmed lawn trying to disappear between my legs.
The worst part was I did it all to surprise my boyfriend... and he was disappointed! Thank god it grows back fast. :)
And by the way, not all women under 30 feel the need to rock the bald crotch--I'm 21. And no man I've ever been with has had a problem with my pussy fro.
Advice for the woman writing in? Try a trim--it means better clit access for oral sex without any scary ingrown hairs or stubble.
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Hairy Scary
I don't shave my pubes and am a very hairy Italian girl. I've had a few men seem unfazed but others were pretty weirded out.
I'm a very pretty woman and figure a guy will be able to overcome his fear of a hairy vagina. Now if only they'd like my hairy buttocks.
Sure I wish I wasn't given so much hair. But it's my body and I'll not shave if I want to.
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if you expect him to go downtown, better do as he says
if i'm dating a girl, and she expects or wants me to go down, she better be waxed and douched. i've gagged, puked in my mouth (for real!), flossed my teeth, or otherwise been generally disgusted by enough gorilla-salads that i had to draw a line.
i've dumped numerous girls because of this.
if she never expects me to eat her her out, then i don't care in the least.
if she wants me to trim or shave, no problem, i will
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Most guys, unless they are desperate, will vomit when they see the hair on your groin and
ass, armpits, legs, etc. Sorry, but it is gross and pathetic.
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Infection Fetish
"if i'm dating a girl, and she expects or wants me to go down, she better be waxed and douched."
Wow dude, you must really dig chicks with chronic yeast infections and bacterial vaginosis, because that's the most common result of douching.
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Dump any guy that asks
Screw them - nothing wrong with a furry bush.
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Body hair is not unattractive
Even if I wanted to, I couldn't possibly explain why popular fashions demand that women shave off all their body hair. Perhaps it has to do with the rise in popularity of slick pornography, where actors' pubic hair shaving is pretty much a practical necessity for hygiene on the set. That might explain the pubic hair business, but what about all that other hair ... like underarms and legs? I'm baffled.
Speaking for my single male self, everything female that I see that looks natural turns me on. And everything that looks phony and contrived turns me off. This goes for shaving everything everywhere, and also for piercings, tattoos, breast implants, and so on. It's all phony. If I wanted that junk, I'd just spend my time watching porno videos and save all that time and money.
I ask women I date *not* to shave anything, actually. They're much prettier to me the way they really are.
Best regards,
Edson C. Hendricks 8/9/06 16:06 PDT
San Diego, California