Letters to the Editor
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consider which way lies happiness
the lw's biggest concern is that if she doesn't get "with it" in the pubes department, she'll wind up alone.
i'd like to propose that there are worse things than being alone. being married to someone who doesn't love you the way you are is definitely one of them.
so much of our future happiness lies in our choice of a marriage partner. the wrong partner is worse than none.
so be more discriminating about your prospective husbands and hold out for being true to yourself and what you want. they'll respect you more in the morning.
and btw, my husband, who likes online porn, has told me he'd like me to shave down there. but he will have to simply enjoy the luxuriantly curly mane that i have between my legs because i will not subject myself to pain and ingrown hairs to satisfy his fantasies. my response was to pull the plug on the online porn (he agreed) and suggest that he find ways to enjoy what he already has.
seems to be working just fine so far.....
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Pornography and pre-pubescence
So, shaved pussy is driven by pornography. What is pornography driven by? It appears to be driven by a desire to see shaved pussies. Men who like to look at shaved pussies are obviously interested, at least to some extent, in pre-pubescent girls. The retention of hair in the pubic region while our bodies lost most of the rest of our hair must have had evolutionary value. It could have been a way for a man to rapidly discern whether a potential mate was sexually mature, and vice versa. If that is the case interest in hairless pussy is truly perverted.
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How much of this is a coastal thing?
This whole brazilian waxing thing, along with many other behaviors I hear about from television, books, and my friends in NYC, makes me wonder what the hell the people in New York (and probably California) are doing. Do people really have sex that quickly with someone? I mean, I've had sex with lots of men but I always considered myself the wild one of my friends.
Dating practices in New York are not necessarily those of the rest of the country. Internet dating, for example. Very common in big cities, not considered anything strange. Where I live, in a midsize city in flyover country, it is still the exception. I also rarely pay for myself on dates, too (another way living in the interior is cheaper.)
As for the shaving itself: I only do it all if I'm going camping for more than 2 nights, and then it's a hygiene issue. The rest of the time it's trimmed. I don't like sex when I'm completely bare because it HURTS--the hair provides a cushion for all the banging.
And the first time I completely shaved, it wigged me out, too, since I hadn't seen that area since I was 11. The guys may not think it makes me look prepubescent, but it makes ME feel weird and perverted.
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pleasantly surprised
I haven't read through all the letters (who would have time?!) but I was expecting more responses stridently decrying the practice as demeaning, anti-feminist, etc. My husband likes the shaved look but not to the point that he would make a big deal out of it. I got brazilians regularly for a while, but I always have a problem with ingrown hairs. I've lasered the hair in the traditional bikini area for this reason, and am planning on doing the same to narrow my pubic hair. I think the bare look is sexy, but to each his/her own.
As far as men asking their girlfriends to shave, I think it depends on the circumstances and the way in which it's handled. On one side, if a guy starts dating a woman, likes her, but then discovers she's extremely hairy to the point where it's a pretty big turn-off for him, then he has two choices: dump her (i'm assuming it's a deal-breaker for him sexually) or gently request that she trim the infield a bit. Some women will be offended and embarassed, but I bet a lot of women would prefer that the guy be up front rather than not say anything and fade into the sunset. Or, on the same side, a long-time lover who "suggests" it. However, a man who "requires" absolute baldness with no compromise, well, that's out of line.
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Barbie was the original shaver
I’m mostly a shaver with a trimmed triangle. In the summer months I go get my bikini line waxed (mostly for swim suite issues) and in the winter I slack off a little keeping it short with a beard trimmer. When I do shave or wax my bikini line I exfoliate the heck out of it before and after to reduce any ingrown hair issues. Most of the women I know (30ish and in NYC) go this route.
I’ve never gone all bald but I have spoken to lots of men and most of them find it pretty sexy. I’ve got a nice set of educated, smart, feminist male friends – I seriously doubt they like it because they’re all closet pedophiles.
In fact most (mainstream) porn stars have big fake boobs that don’t move and a hairless pussy. The combo doesn’t make me think of a child at all – rather a great big Barbie doll. I think we could blame Mattel as much as we can blame the porn industry for this trend.
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yes, shaving does hurt
It hurts me a LOT, and makes me bleed, and causes unsightly ingrown hairs, and is smooth for only a few hours--who wants a five o'clock shadow there?
I got electrolysis on my "bikini line", but for me, shaving everything is ridiculous. I have found that mature men like mature women, and mature women have hair down there. The trend toward bareness is like the trend toward body piercing and tattoos--just 'cause the kids are doing it doesn't mean I'm going to.
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sorry my sarcasm dripped all over your keyboard
Brazilian women wear ittty bitty bikinis. It may seem odd, but it's true: pubic hair sticking out of a bikini will invite more sexual scrutiny than a bikini area that contains only bikini bottoms and smooth, hairless skin.
-- sandra m
Yeah. If there's one thing a woman wearing a string bikini can't stand, it's someone looking at her goodies. How pleasant to discover women are subjecting themselves to this painful procedure so they can don a string bikini and not have men stare at their barely-covered pussies.