Letters to the Editor
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RE: MANBUSH
I second the vote! Men, please don't shave if you love a BJ. It might look better to you, but I'm the one you want to swallow. Can't stand the stubble.
Also, when I'm on top it's all prickly (pun not intended) -- which is fun for a second, but who wants rugburn crotch?
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feminist doesn't mean pro-hair, feminists make their own choices
I'm a well-educated, American-born feminist, age 25, and I adore the sensation of being waxed. It only really hurts the first time and it leaves the area smooth and incredibly sensitive. I'm much more lax with the shaving of my legs, and I've yet to find a male or female sex-partner that was horrified by this. I currently reside in Dallas, TX, and I find that the heat demands some grooming, but that "brazilian" syle waxing is still a specialty service offered mainly at higher-end salons.
I personally find that women care more about this than men do, and that grooming our sexual regions is part of owning our sexuality. I adore my cunt and love to give it attention and buy it clothing, but function is a major factor in my selection of a pubic style. I agree with the cunnilingus testimonials, but I'm surprised no one has mentioned the importance of waxing (no shaving, aieee!) for analingus. Very athletic and varied sex demands better grooming.
I wasn't sexually active until I was 19, so I had a lot of completely private time to experiment with a razor in high school. If you exfoliate with bath gloves before and after shaving, ingrowns should not be an issue but the effect doesn't last for very long.
What's the source of the porn-phobic sentiments? There's a lot of variety in porn, so you really can't tar it all with the same brush. Indie porn is interesting and fun to watch. Lots of women consume it for our own amusement so it seems unreasonable to vilify men for enjoying it as well. Boards like this help me realize why I find so few people attractive-- everyone's so hung up on hating other's choices...
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180 and counting
You can't say Salon readers don't take their genitalia seriously!
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It's YOUR choice
Requests for a certain length/style are OK. Requiring ANYTHING isn't. Would you let these men dictate the look of the hair on your head?
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Disguised Vacation for Cary?
Has anyone else noticed that recently Cary's responses had been rather over-the-top, lengthy, anguished, and abstract, to the point of readers making inquiries and his subsequent acknowledgement that he's undergone a great deal of personal stress lately and realizes that it has shown up in his responses?
And...that along comes a LW with a question that he evidently wouldn't want to touch with an 8-foot hedge clipper (sorry), and can therefore toss out to his readers, thereby giving himself a break and taking himself off the hook?
Why else publish a letter that he has no intention of thinking about, much less responding to?
Maybe I'm old-fashioned, curmudgeonly, what have you, but while anything is, I s'pose, fair game for discussion, I find the highly personal matter of "short n' curlys" distasteful for this particular forum.
Styles and fashions tonsorial and sartorial come and go. What ever happened to a woman (or man) deciding what's best and most comfortable for his/her own body? Why are we dealing with this here?
I can just hear Cary saying "discuss amongst yourselves" while he pours himself a tall one, sits back in the summer heat, and decides whether he really wants to continue this column in the long run.
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Pussy anyone?
I think Cary is back in the bottle. An article about pussy, how low can you go.
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It depends
I'm a lesbian. None of my past sexual partners have groomed for the sake of men, at least not while they were with me. I don't shave (I trim) for many of the reasons the LW doesn't.
But I had a girlfriend who was turned on by being bare sometimes, and that's when I discovered the many upsides. It felt amazing against my cheek and oral sex was a whole new experience. It looked and felt amazing. I told her how much I liked it and she seemed to enjoy waxing to please me. She had gorgeous womanly curves, so she didn't look childlike. Very good.
I had a sexual encounter a few months ago with another woman who kept bare, and I much less enthusiastic about it. She was short, skinny, not curvy at all, and much to my dismay, when I saw her naked, I couldn't help but see a prepubescent girl. There were other reasons we had bad chemistry, but it's still kind of disturbing to think about.
Obviously I would never insist on shaving or waxing. I'm in favor of anything that brings a couple closer together erotically, and obviously that would require both partners to agree.
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Do what makes you happy
Clearly we've hit a cultural nerve! These messages are hilarious, I hope Eve Ensler is taking notes.
My general observation: I'm 32, single, and live in L.A., and many of my single female friends have been getting waxed for a while. Now that I think about it, I don't know of one married lady who does, interesting. According to my (purely anecdotal) research, though, the ladies in L.A. generally go for the Brazilian wax (a vertical strip of hair is left), and they all say it's far superior to shaving. They all love it.
My personal experience: I shaved it all off once at the curious request of a boyfriend. I too was afraid I would look like a kid, but my lips were a lot more pronounced than they were when I was growing up-- the whole area looked a lot more juicy and womanly to me, which was both hot and a great relief (though I guess not everyone has had that experience). I definitely had more sensitivity during sex, which was great, but when the hair grew back *******oh my Goddess****** the itching made me want to jump off a bridge. So I haven't done it since.
Ultimately, like anything else in the bedroom, it's up to the two people to decide together what turns them on. But specifically to the lady who wrote the letter: I can say at least in L.A. that the Brazilian wax is definitely a trend, but I personally go 'au natural' and have had a fun and steamy dating life. Keep at it! When the time is right, you'll find a guy who finds you scintillating, fur and all :)
~Diana Prince